It pays to be a gentleman — admired by men for your ease in every situation and by women for your civil ways.
This, we need in our overly chaotic society!
A gentleman dresses
appropriately for any occasion, knows instinctively how to treat women, acts
his age and is always fun to be around.
appropriately for any occasion, knows instinctively how to treat women, acts
his age and is always fun to be around.
A gentleman follows some established rules. However, author John Bridges insists that gentlemanly
behavior is not about do’s and don’t’s; it’s about common sense and courtesy.
behavior is not about do’s and don’t’s; it’s about common sense and courtesy.
In Nigeria today, it seems gentlemen do not exist! A typical Naija man no get time for all this points I posted below.
If you think you are a gentleman, go through these pointers and see:
A gentleman . . .
- Keeps to the right, whether he is walking on a sidewalk,
down a hallway or on the stairs.
- does not attempt to walk and send text messages
simultaneously.
- waits for a woman to initiate a social kiss. If she leans
toward him, he turns his cheek toward her lips. And when she graces him with a
light, brushing kiss, he doesn’t dawdle in accepting it.
- doesn’t wipe away a lipstick smudge in the presence of the
woman who planted it on him. He bears it, even if briefly, as a badge of honor,
wiping it away later with a handkerchief.
- waits until a lady at the table lifts her fork before he
takes his first bite.
- places his knife and his fork on his plate side by side, as
if they were the hands of a clock set at 5:25, when he’s finished eating.
- always has an umbrella to share.
- never wears a belt when he is wearing suspenders.
- leaves the bottom button of his vest undone.
- never wears a bow-tie with a button-down shirt.
- owns at least one
pair of black lace-up shoes.
- usually takes his shirts to the laundry but knows how to
use an iron and spray starch.
- is careful about what he says in e-mails. He meticulously
reviews his messages, editing if necessary to make sure recipients will
understand what he’s saying — and the tone in which he says it.
- knows how to make a grilled cheese sandwich at 2 a.m. and
an omelet at 7 a.m.
- doesn’t flaunt his newest gadgets, no matter how expensive
or cutting-edge they may be.
- never wears the same pair of blue jeans two days in a row.
- puts the liquor away when he wants guests to leave.
- always offers to get up and make the coffee in the morning.
- never waits for something better to turn up.
…Adapted